Like desire, anger is probably a favourite topic of discussion for the philosophically oriented. In the Bhagwad Gita, it has been said that anger leads to a sort of hypnosis, which destroys memory and thereby intelligence. Even in common discussions, educated people mostly do not disagree that this kind of deep and/or persistent anger is to be avoided. That brings us to the question of whether anger is fine in smaller bits - especially where it can help you keep healthy (or, preserve your sanity).
Here, at least a few situations come to mind where the answer might still be "no". Firstly, say this smaller anger was a cause of hurt to some people, maybe on a recurring basis. Kind-hearted people would naturally want to reduce instances like these. Another situation is where the "small" anger has become a habit. Once a tendency to get angry everywhere is developed, the angry person is likely to feel depleted of energy every now and then, simply because of the frequency and the intensity of the emotion. Even if the anger is not always expressed, the fatigue is likely to show up because the "energies" are being depleted anyway. A third is a situation where the person feels that the anger is always justified by his/her logic. This might not deplete as much energy, but even here, the person could be creating more isolation for himself/herself, so it might be better to be cautious even in these cases.
In a few situations, where both parties ensure that the anger does not drain so much energy and actually try to clear the atmosphere, we might end up with a great solution to the particular situation even after getting angry. However, simply because of such experiences, we might further strengthen our general tendency to get angry, or, we might be strengthening the bonds of maya (seperate egoistical consciousness), and who knows what the final effect might be?
Now let's make the jump I want to make here and accept for now that we want to avoid anger. The few scriptures we read don't clearly define the situations where anger is good or the extent to which it should be encouraged, so we go with an overall feeling that it is better to avoid it than indulge in it. Even when teaching small children how to behave in day-to-day situations, it is not clear that deep anger helps - what they need is some clear direction, and not our deep resentment towards their mischief or their laziness on that day.
Here, at least a few situations come to mind where the answer might still be "no". Firstly, say this smaller anger was a cause of hurt to some people, maybe on a recurring basis. Kind-hearted people would naturally want to reduce instances like these. Another situation is where the "small" anger has become a habit. Once a tendency to get angry everywhere is developed, the angry person is likely to feel depleted of energy every now and then, simply because of the frequency and the intensity of the emotion. Even if the anger is not always expressed, the fatigue is likely to show up because the "energies" are being depleted anyway. A third is a situation where the person feels that the anger is always justified by his/her logic. This might not deplete as much energy, but even here, the person could be creating more isolation for himself/herself, so it might be better to be cautious even in these cases.
In a few situations, where both parties ensure that the anger does not drain so much energy and actually try to clear the atmosphere, we might end up with a great solution to the particular situation even after getting angry. However, simply because of such experiences, we might further strengthen our general tendency to get angry, or, we might be strengthening the bonds of maya (seperate egoistical consciousness), and who knows what the final effect might be?
Now let's make the jump I want to make here and accept for now that we want to avoid anger. The few scriptures we read don't clearly define the situations where anger is good or the extent to which it should be encouraged, so we go with an overall feeling that it is better to avoid it than indulge in it. Even when teaching small children how to behave in day-to-day situations, it is not clear that deep anger helps - what they need is some clear direction, and not our deep resentment towards their mischief or their laziness on that day.
So for now, let's assume that the scriptures do ask us to overcome anger because it is in the interests of higher spiritual development. Is there a method that works? Of course, no method works without our will, and if the will is very strong, maybe no method will be needed. Yet, some of us, I'm sure, would have felt that techniques and methods also help where the will is strong but not perfect yet. It is mainly for this group that I would like to share a set of two ideas which I gathered from some articles written by someone who is highly revered in my family. I am not giving the name here - let's just call him Swamiji for now. However, his revered status in my eyes is important because that further helped me pay attention to the words.
In one article, Swamiji says that while the total cessation of "prapanch" (worldly life, or the "street-smart" activities we have to sometimes pursue to lead a worldly life, or to elaborate, the delusional activities done under the influence of "maya") is not possible (probably said for the practitioner, not for the self-realized), it is still important (for the practitioner) to control its "saamraajya bhaav" (i.e., aggressive or overwhelming role in daily life). In a different article, he says that while the ego (ahankaara) is multi-faceted, it has four main "branches" or manifestations. Since that essay was written in Hindi, let me mention the four manifestations in Hindi itself. They are:
(a) cheezon ke milne se hone waalaa sukh (the pleasure of getting things),
(b) na milne se hone waalaa dukkh (the displeasure at not getting them),
(c) apamaan (insult), aur (and)
(d) apayash (infamy).
Now let us put these 2 together. If anger is our problem, the first idea tells us that even if it is impossible for an ordinary practitioner to completely eliminate it, we would do well to bring its overwhelming influence under control.
The second idea then tells us that the insult or displeasure we feel is one of the four main manifestations of an over-sized ego (over-sized for the spiritual aspirant at least), and hence is good to control and down-size it. Together, they make a super recipe for controlling anger and other toxic emotions which can all too often sway us, if we choose to stay that way.
In one article, Swamiji says that while the total cessation of "prapanch" (worldly life, or the "street-smart" activities we have to sometimes pursue to lead a worldly life, or to elaborate, the delusional activities done under the influence of "maya") is not possible (probably said for the practitioner, not for the self-realized), it is still important (for the practitioner) to control its "saamraajya bhaav" (i.e., aggressive or overwhelming role in daily life). In a different article, he says that while the ego (ahankaara) is multi-faceted, it has four main "branches" or manifestations. Since that essay was written in Hindi, let me mention the four manifestations in Hindi itself. They are:
(a) cheezon ke milne se hone waalaa sukh (the pleasure of getting things),
(b) na milne se hone waalaa dukkh (the displeasure at not getting them),
(c) apamaan (insult), aur (and)
(d) apayash (infamy).
Now let us put these 2 together. If anger is our problem, the first idea tells us that even if it is impossible for an ordinary practitioner to completely eliminate it, we would do well to bring its overwhelming influence under control.
The second idea then tells us that the insult or displeasure we feel is one of the four main manifestations of an over-sized ego (over-sized for the spiritual aspirant at least), and hence is good to control and down-size it. Together, they make a super recipe for controlling anger and other toxic emotions which can all too often sway us, if we choose to stay that way.
I am sure there would be many other such sayings and teachings in all the well-known scriptures, but today, I do not have a ready compilation of such teachings from those well-known sources. Needless to say, whatever we respect a lot, we can pick and try to emulate. In that sense, the power lies in our own mind and not in the words. Then again, from a different point of view, the words really need to carry that power too!
Sadanand Tutakne
Sadanand Tutakne